We are all here to serve one another

We are all here to serve one another

At first when I heard the above statement the only thing I could think of was slavery, I was offended by the remarks, it just didn’t sound nor feel right for a human being to say such statements. I gave it too much thought though because I really wanted to understand the context of it, even now as write this I am not sure if I got to the very roots of the statement but at least it makes to me sense.

We are all born to serve one another, be it our needs or empowering each other. I like to think of it as giving back, in my country South Africa we call it “Ubuntu” which means humanity. It is more like person is built by people, serving each other is a way of life, I don’t necessarily mean we have to literally clean, cook or work for each other but to just build each other with words of encouragement or by helping the needy and everything that brings out the greatness of people for the people.

I for one believe that we are capable of serving or helping each other, I have seen this happen during natural disasters and it doesn’t have to take a hurricane, earthquake or any other disaster for human beings to be a human but it has to be a way of life….. 

To You

“To you who’s had/having a rough week. To you who seems to be under constant storm clouds. To you who feels invisible. To you who don’t know how much longer you can hold on. To you who lost faith. To you who always blame yourself for everything that goes wrong. To you, you are incredible. You make this world a little bit more wonderful. You have so much potential and so many things left to do. You have time. Better things are coming your way, so please hang in there you can do it.”

-Jodi Ann Bickley  

These words always relieve me when things get heavy in this life journey, I hope they do the same for you too

You can’t be a King/Queen with an emotional tolerance of a baby!

My title to me explains a lot and changes how I view and react to things that are somewhat unpleasant. The reality is that we are all dealing with different situations and circumstances, all I can do is tell my story in the hopes that it will make a difference somewhere in somebody’s life. A lot of my previous posts were about acceptance and personal development, things that I am always looking to reinforce and adopt as part of my life. 

In the past few months, I have realized that the more I become better at what I do, stronger and more accepting of situations around me, things do not necessarily get better and it gets frustrating at some point. At first, I would try to fight it and worry about how things are not getting better, ask questions like “why is this happening to me?” and have all kinds of pessimistic thoughts about my future until I finally figured it out.

“you can never be great if you are not willing to go through it, and view survival/success as the only options you have!”. This took me back to emotional intelligence and how we sometimes let our emotions rule us and how we view the world. Your problems don’t stay behind as you grow, they come along and grow with you, you can fight it all you want but that’s just how it is. Some problems you out grow but the space will always be filled up by something else and you need to stay ready and know that it’s to be expected. It’s also part of acceptance!

The best you could do is create an ideal situation for yourself and dedicate yourself to it, that’s what I do. I visualize my future and how I want it to be and dedicate myself to reaching that point in life, by doing this I can also consider the possible hurdles I could encounter, and think about possible ways of overcoming them even before they happen. It’s more like a preparation thing where I orientate myself to the future I would like to have, while also acknowledging that nothing is ever easy and I will have to go through situations/circumstances before I get there, and even when I get there they’ll still be something I am dealing with so it’s not even about trying to escape from anything.

My final word to anyone reading this is that “realize your potential, and know that not everything has to disturb you and your focus in achieving all that you want. You are a King/Queen and you have the power to change your life!”.

Choose happiness

The choice we make, contributes to the biggest part of who we are it doesn’t matter if they are good or bad but the fact is we are the once who are responsible of our future.

Be your own chauffeur and steer your future to a place where you will live happily ever after and bare in mind that to live a happy life doesn’t always mean you have to have a lot of money in the bank you can be happy with a bank account that doesn’t have seven figures. Happiness is a choice and it is a lifestyle it doesn’t always have to be materialistic.

There are many people in this world who wake up with a choice of being happy in their life but when you look into how they are living you would questions their happiness.

Growing up I was taught that joys comes from within I remember clearly my teacher used to compare it with a chicken egg and he would go on and say that if chicken egg was to be from the outside we would have same all eggs we eat for breakfast but if it would hatch from the inside out we will witness life. What he meant was that the joy/happiness we seek outside is toxic to us because it comes and it goes but the happiness that comes from inside its eternal and it needs no influence it just happen.

 That is the way of life 

Finding Courage

It’s been quite a while since my last post that is mainly because I have a lot in my plate lately and finding the time to write has been quite difficult.

Embracing positive change doesn’t only mean we have to post once after a while but it’s a lifestyle we try by all means to live it and put it in our everyday life and I can say that life itself is discouraging, we all want to grow up but when we do, we realize that its not as easy as  we thought and that leads to a number of us being greatly discouraged.

 When I was young I remember I was field with big ideas, I was energetic, looking forward to living and exploring life itself everything felt possible, now that I’m older I realize that the idea I had about life was not what life is and that is  be discouraging, I thought that I can be anything but now I know that there are places I can’t reach because of the limited resources and I also know that there are places that these limited resources can help me reach but some people don’t see that that’s why most of them are discouraged by their reality and I can say that cause it took me a while for me to realize that too.

And with this being said no amount of motivation can help people who feel they are suffering in the hands of their reality, they are the only one who can help themselves.

It takes a lot of courage for a discouraged person to stand

    

It has Been a While

it’s been a long time since my last post, and a lot has happened between now and then. I’ve both encountered and grown from every experienced instance, and there’s always a story to tell about every situation. I’m currently doing my final year for my undergraduate degree, and although I still have a long way to go before I can call myself an Industrial psychologist I am highly grateful for the place I’m at today. I’ve gotten used to the culture of working hard for all that you want so I’m not even going to talk about the work load or even any other academic challenge because I spent sleepless nights to ensure that I also get to where I want to see myself in future.

opportunity also came and changed my life through a part time job which is wonderful because I can now start assisting myself and save up for next year as I’ll be looking to get a formal job while I complete my postgraduate studies part time. it’s a wonderful experience and I get to also teach myself the skills needed to work effectively with others and relate some of the things I study with real-life work situations, it’s the part I enjoy the most about the experience.

there are always the things that resist change, that insist on giving you the same feeling repeatedly irrespective of any situational change. things that if looked at closely can end up with a deep ache or a place that is best forgotten. Over time we learn to manage, to cope and survive the effects leading some sense of freedom from the clutches of our strongholds. this is something I have mastered, and it has completely altered my emotional responses to things, circumstances and situations.

I am not afraid anymore, I have faith, and hope drives me to work towards achieving my greatest desires. 

You were Chosen, Not the other way Around!

 These past few months have made me realize that trying to fight or even run away from the true reality of you life is just a futile efforts, because every solution is mostly temporary and it all comes down to your waking up to the same reality the next day. 

I had a conversation with my aunt the other day and she said something that made sense of everything that seems to be happening in our individual lives, she said "had I not suffered so much in my past, my future would have never been this bright". After hearing this i suddenly felt like things are not as bad as I thought they are because like her, I too get to face various challenges that sometimes get too overwhelming and its just feels like the more I try to free myself, the more tangled things become.

But the lesson here was that even though things are not as you would like them to be now, know and realize that all the hardships and challenges are building you for something greater ahead of you, something you might not even know yet. I always tell myself to appreciate all the lessons and experiences I gain from all my struggles and everything I go through because it is a part of my growth and with that growth comes actualization. 

In order to know your true potential you have to be pushed, and the truth is that in life we are pushed by circumstances and problems, which means that instead of always assuming negativity from every situation we can assume light and actually push through with the knowledge that this is just preparation. 

Nothing can break a positive spirit about life and all that comes with it, and the stronger you become as a person, the stronger your challenges become and for as long as that is happening it means you are not there yet. Refuse with your faith and hope as these two things are what carries us through our darkest days, love and appreciate yourself and all the efforts your making to better your life because that is proof of how capable and extraordinary you are.

Progress is important and no matter how significant it is, know that it will still remain progress at the end of the day. Do not look over to the next person and what they are doing, only do so to learn or better yourself but even with that always stay true to yourself and relieve yourself of unnecessary pressure because you know your life and where you want it to go. If there's somethings or someone who fails to see your intentions and efforts, cut it and take care of your own interests because that would be a clear indication that they are not taken care of!

If we could choose the lives we want to live, no one would be struggling but we can't because it is through struggles where greatness is realized and with that being said, know that you were chosen for a reason to go through all that your dealing with, so that you can make it and become living proof to all those that follow you, proof that its possible through resilience and endurance!

We are all going to make IT, We just have to Believe!!