Its not love anymore if your not happy!

Have you ever had to walk away from someone you genuinely love because your just not happy anymore? Well I did and it's tearing me apart.

I'm not hurting because I left, giving up on the hope and faith that I had in our relationship is what is really proving to be a challenge because I feel like I have to travel into the future and erase all the hopes and dreams I had for us, the belief that I had of us staying together forever and just coming to terms with the fact that it's just not happening anymore. Everything is just different now and I'm not really sure if I was ever ready for it! 

But I didn't leave because I wanted to, I just realized that it's no use loosing more of myself to a situation I'm no longer getting any serious satisfaction from, happiness is temporary and is often clouded by everything else that is happening between us. Loosing more of my self to a situation that constantly makes me feel like a liability or inconvenience.  

I just think that sometimes we just need to learn to be able to love the people we love from afar, where they are no longer influencing our lives and just be there until we've let go enough to properly move on.

The love I have for myself will sustain me through all this because I definitely know that I can absolutely do better and nothing is ever really worth it if it doesn't bring Joy to my life. 

Change is not easy, but it can definitely free you!!! 

Never Stop Winning

The moment you begin to tell yourself that you won is the very same moment you begin to lose. 

In life win doesn't have a past tense is either you keep winning or you lose that's all. 

Winners don't stop winning thats why we see even the richest people striving to be even more richer. 

Is it selfish behaviour to want more even if you have more ?,  Well I say that question depends on who is asking it, the person saying this might be a winner who feels that they achieved too much now they want  to rest or the person saying this might be a bitter person who has given up and not even trying to win, now they say it because they want to be justified for losing and being negative.

I say its selfish when a person who has been winning, taking the opportunity for the ones who just started winning.

None the less keep winning and approach each challenge with positive attitude, that will guarantee you a win

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If you Don't like the road your on now, why not start paving a new one?

Have you ever felt like your life has turned into a cycle of continuous similar events? do you feel like you can predict the outcome of each and every situation you find yourself in?our lives are not meant to feel like a system and should never follow a particular pattern. If the road your on keeps taking you to the same destination over and over again then its not for you anymore, you need to get off it!

Sometimes we refuse to give up our old ways because we feel like we've made progress and starting form the begging would just be a waste of invested time, but you should never be afraid to break a chain of things that don't work for you anymore in order to see the positive change that you seek in your life.. Change is difficult for everyone, but it is necessary if we want to see development.

Before I started studying industrial psychology I was in a different institution, doing a different course and after only 6 months I realized that the road I was on was not taking me to the destination I wanted to see myself at in the future so I decided to quit. That came with a few consequences though, I had to pay for those months I attended, Had to go and stay home for another 6 months because there was nothing i could do at that time and It was difficult. I was depressed for sometime but eventually I came out of it and started doing some community work just to move time.

I am still thanking myself for making that drastic decision that didn't make sense to a lot of people , where everyone thought I had failed and was unable to do anything productive with my life. I paved a new road for myself, a road that allows me to shine and be the person that \I want to be, a road that takes me wherever I want to go and for that I am very grateful.

Now its your turn, what are you going to do? for the greater good of yourself! Believe in yourself and have faith in every decision that you make because only you understands the true desires of your heart. Yes you will feel judged or defeated but remember that all those things are temporary and that only you can define yourself!

Life has never been easy on us, I started this blog with a purpose to share my experiences in a way that will uplift, inspire and motivate all those that are feeling down because I know how it feels like. Together we will Embrace positive change and prosper in life. 

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!!!

Challenges of life

We all have challenges we have to continuously deal with in life, this is a life fact that no one can escape. Some are temporary and some seem to just be growing with time, and at times all these challenges become overwhelming and you feel like you don’t have it in you anymore to deal with them, That is how I feel right now!

So I took my book of life “Battle Field of the Mind” and continued reading where I left off previously and it is amazing how I was able to be salvaged from my emotional downfall. But because I know that we often share problems as humans I decided to write this post as a way of helping others as I have been helped too.

The first thing you need to understand is that you are not alone, there’s always someone who understands out there and if you’re a believer there’s always God to turn to. Yes sometimes you might be discouraged by your inability to deal with your life challenges but there’s always light beyond every challenge, you just have to allow yourself to see it.

The first thing you have to be able to do is to control the way you think, assess the state of your mind and the kinds of thoughts that dwell in it. A mind that is stable and free of strong holds will be your greatest weapon against anything you might encounter in life. A mind that allows you to continuously think positively in spite of how things are going in your life. A mind filled with hope and faith in the greater good it knows and believes in.

Negative thoughts bring no peace to your mind and life; you’re doing no one a favour by sitting there and thinking about how you’re failing in life and all the things that keep going wrong . Why not acknowledge the fact that yes things are not going my way but I know that life gets better and no challenge can define me as a person. You wouldn’t be dealing with it if you weren’t capable of getting over it, there’s strength in all of us and with it we can all prosper!

Positive change starts in the mind and later translates to your life; we are products of our own thoughts so the next time a negative thought comes your way remember that. Let’s all keep striving for better situations in life because they are achievable and eventually we’ll all break free and SHINE!

Stop Wishing. Start Doing....

Wishing for something is same as living in a dream, I'm sorry to come out strong like that but its true, all my life I have never seen anyone of my wishes come to reality, I was concerned until I realised that wise people make a wish and then go after it. They don't wait on the sidelines and hope that something will happen, they make things happen. They knock on every door and it doesn't matter how many times they get shut out. Don't allow fear to hold you down, so stop fantasizing and get in the race to chase that one thing you have been wishing for..

Focus Is Vital

Nothing really becomes dynamic if it's not first specific, no greater destiny can emerge without focus. Focus is the ability to look unwaveringly at your purpose and assignment without destructions sometimes people are involved in so many project's and all of them fail because they lack the required focus.

The Reality of Life

First Post for this year, hope it brings some light and comfort to you and wish you all the best in all that you do!!!

Life is a continuous cycle of different events and experiences, in life we have good, bad, happy, fast and slow times. Life to me is time, as it is used to measure life.

The reality of your life will stay with you because it is who you are and will stay with you for the given time you have In this world. Sometimes it is not what we want or expect from life at the time but remember that it is those imperfections that derive our true selves and what we are capable of.

I know a lot of people who are always Living outside the reality of their lives, and yes maybe it's working for them and gives them a sense of freedom in some way but what I have realized is that some things are like our shadows, no matter how far or fast you move they are always there by your side.

There are things that are within your reach, things you can do something about and maybe change them for the better in your life and there are those that are rigid, inflexible and out of reach but are part of your everyday life.

The only way of dealing with such things is through recognition and acceptance. Recognize the reality of your life, see how it's affecting you(which can either be negative/positive/both) identity those that you can change or do something about and just accept the ones you can't change and just try seeking ways of making them work for/with you in order to make you a better person.

Embrace Positive Change!!